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 Excerpts From My Tribe to Yours

These are selected moments from a life lived between cultures, landscapes, and worlds of meaning.

Each excerpt stands on its own — a glimpse into memory, experience, and reflection — yet together they form part of a larger journey.

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A child encounters a Cobra on a track in Natal South Africa


👉 The Cobra on the Track
A childhood encounter on a Natal farm that became a lasting lesson in stillness and awareness.

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This moment became part of a broader journey to understand human behaviour and community dynamics.

👉 Scapegoats, Suspicion, and Truth
👉 What Is Scapegoating? (A Simple Explanation)
👉 Why Groups Turn on One Person

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